November 21, 2018

Those Who Try to Tear us Down will Only Strengthen our Resolve to Endure


We touched a little bit about negativity in Our Negative Perceptions About Ourselves Create our Biggest Barriers. Now, we’ll deal with how the negativity of others can get in our way and why it should strengthen our resolve to endure past the barriers we face.

That Will Never Work

Bessemer Venture Partners (BVP) is one of the oldest Venture Capitalist (VC) firms in the country (Full disclosure: I actually pitched a company to them. They said no ):).

What I like about BVP is that they are straight-forward-tell-it-like-it-is and keep track of an anti-portfolio of all the companies they passed on.

The list is pretty impressive!

Apple, Google, eBay and FedEx are among the companies that the smart guys at BVP rejected. Just think if Steve, Sergey or Larry listened to BVP and stopped trying.

BVP’s anti-portfolio makes the point perfectly — even smart, in the know people, can get it wrong.

If we want to be successful then sometimes we have to take the criticisms, rejections, setbacks and disappoints and use them to fuel our endurance to prove people wrong. We maybe the only person who believes in what we are doing and sometimes that’s all we get.

Ways to Take Action

  1. Learn from criticism: Every bit of feedback can be constructive — even criticism. Learn from criticism but don’t let criticism get in your way.

  2. Believe deeply: Belief is a powerful thing. If we deeply believe in what we are doing, then it will be easy to endure through rejections and setbacks.

  3. Constantly find new ways: Just because we get a concept or idea does not mean that others will. Seek out new ways to explain or model your idea or endeavor. Sometimes concepts get lost in translation.

  4. Don’t take it personal: No matter what people say, it’s never personal even when it might feel that way. We are the only ones that can make it personal. Learn to take the feedback with grace and move on.

This aha is from my book, #ENDURANCE tweet Book 01— A Little Nudge to Keep You Going. The book is chalked full of mantras, sayings, words of wisdom and encouragements to help you get past your challenges so you can achieve your goals. If you found this aha inspiring or helpful, then I would appreciate your support by sharing it with a friend and/or purchasing a copy of the book. If you missed any past amplified posts, check out the #ENDURANCE tweet Amplified! page. Want to get my latest on enduring? Then sign up for my FREE newsletter. Thanks for reading and keep enduring!