November 21, 2018

Our Negative Perceptions About Ourselves Create our Biggest Barriers


Let’s face it. A lot of us are just plan negative.

Yeah, I said it.

You, me and our friends tend towards the negative instead of the positive even though we know that negative perceptions do us know good. It’s like we can’t help it.

Actually, It’s Hard to Remain Positive

We talked about this very topic in Our Only Real Barrier is our Negative Attitude Towards Them. In that aha, we explored our attitudes about barriers. In this one, we will dig a little deeper into how our perceptions about ourselves contribute to the barriers we put up.

We Are Our Biggest Critic

Our perceptions about ourselves tend to focus on our shortfalls instead of what we are good at. Sure, there are some among us that think they can do no wrong but those people are just sociopaths.

For the rest of us, our biggest critics are ourselves. We tend to beat ourselves up about some of the silliest things that most people don’t even notice.

For example, do you think that people who really care about you care that you have a big zit on your forehead, or that your hair may be a little messy or that your car is dirty.

Chances are, they don’t even notice nor care — they are just happy that you are around.

Success Starts With Us

The harsh reality is that no one and I mean no one, is looking out for your best interest except you. Yeah, I know, that’s a little harsh, but the truth is harsh.

Knowing that, we need to be our own best friend and cheerleader to ensure that we accomplish what we want to accomplish. All that starts with changing our negative attitudes about ourselves to positive ones.

Ways to Take Action

  1. Praise yourself: I know this may sound a little corny but pat yourself on the back. Tell yourself what a good job you do.

  2. Challenge your perceptions: Perceptions can be reality if we let them. Make sure to challenge the perceptions you have about yourself so that they are realistic.

  3. Don’t get sucked in: It’s really easy to get sucked into negativity. Try not to succumb to the negativity that’s bound to be around you by not participating nor feeling the pressure to be negative.

This aha is from my book, #ENDURANCE tweet Book 01— A Little Nudge to Keep You Going. The book is chalked full of mantras, sayings, words of wisdom and encouragements to help you get past your challenges so you can achieve your goals. If you found this aha inspiring or helpful, then I would appreciate your support by sharing it with a friend and/or purchasing a copy of the book. If you missed any past amplified posts, check out the #ENDURANCE tweet Amplified! page. Want to get my latest on enduring? Then sign up for my FREE newsletter. Thanks for reading and keep enduring!