August 23, 2017

Everyone Gets Butterflies Before Starting. Make Yours Fly in Formation

It’s hard to fight our nerves.

Being nervous is part of our primal fight or flight reaction that is engrained in our DNA. Even famous actors, people you would think could handle the pressure, sometimes throw up before taking the stage, or even hyperventilate.

If we control and channel this nervous energy, we can use it to stay prepared.

Walking The Fine Line

It’s actually healthily to feel a little nervous — it means we care about what we are doing. The trick is to not let the butterflies get in the way of our performance. The best way to make the butterflies fly in formation is to practice our craft. The more we practice, the more we control our butterflies.

The fine line we all walk is being nervous enough be prepared instead of being ill prepared due to overconfidence. Walking this fine line is a delicate balancing act which can only be achieved by respecting the situations we find ourselves in and practicing.

So Nervous Yet Persevered

The Kings Speech is a movie based on the true story of King George VI and his debilitating speech impediment (he stuttered).

What’s striking about the story is that King George VI had to overcome this fear to unite his country during war. His butterflies must have been doing back flips given the gravity of the situation he faced. Yet, with help, he overcame the nervousness and inspired a nation to persevere. If he could do it, certainly we can too!

Ways to Take Action

  1. Practice, practice and practice some more: Practice is the best way to reduce our nervousness because it builds our confidence in our ability to perform and gives us the muscle memory to not have to think about what we are doing.

  2. Take a minute: Take a minute to settle yourself by closing your eyes and breathing deeply. This will help reduce your anxiety before you have to perform.

  3. Mediate regularity: Mediation is a great way to build a reserve of calm for stressful situations. It’s amazing what a regular mediation practice can do for reducing nervousness.

  4. Bring support: Ask a good friend to be there when the nerves hit so they can help carry the burden for you. You would be amazed what a smile or wink from a trusted friend can do to reduce your anxiety.


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