December 13, 2018

Channel your angst over setbacks into the will to overcome them


I’m about 25% through these aha’s (this one is 33 if you are counting) and while I’m really excited everyday to make progress, it’s been tough.

If you recall, I stated in the first aha Starting is the scariest part, that I would write 1,000 words a day until I finished all these aha’s. At that pace, that’s about 3 aha’s a day or 46 days. I’m now on day 11.

Life Gets in the Way

Frankly, I have a lot of angst about my 1,000 word a day goal. Not that I don’t think I can do it. I really want to. That’s not it at all.

The angst comes from all the other commitments I have in my life — from work, to volunteering, to having a social life. Throw all that in with a much needed (and welcomed) vacation and I start to feel the setbacks mounting.

21 Days to a New Habit

There is a long held mantra (well, at least a Google answers mantra, backed up by some research) that it takes 21 days to form a habit. This realization came about by Dr. Maxwell Maltz who observed that amputees took about 21-28 days to get used to their new limbs.

This 21 Day Habit Theory stuck and now is popular within all sorts of self help circles.

For me, I think once I get in the rhythm, the angst will subside — I just hope it’s sooner than 21 days!

Habits Are Non-Linear and Plateau

The 21 Day Habit Theory is somewhat simplistic in that it observed amputees who had to deal with their loss of limb 24/7.

New research suggests that we reach a plateau in forming a habit at about 66 days. This, of course, is highly dependent on the activity.

This is far from the so called 10,000 hours it takes to become an expert but hey, you got to start somewhere.

Ways to Take Action

  1. Form a positive habit: Setbacks can be a little less scary if you develop positive habits to overcome them.

  2. Don’t over think: Sometimes we get angst about events that have yet to happen. Just relax and do it.

  3. Adjust when you have too: Too often, we hit a setback and wham, stop. Learn to adjust your approach when conditions warrant and that will help get over setbacks.

  4. Be in the moment: Akin to over thinking, being in the moment allows us to deal with the here and now and not worry about the next setback or barrier.



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